I like to think of myself as a pretty open minded person. I like to try new things, and on the flip side, if someone else is doing something I don’t want to do, I don’t really care. So when I say this, I have one particular activity in mind: butt sex.
It’s just not something I’ve ever been very interested in. I think it’s one of those things that’s great for some people, but just isn’t for everybody. So while I don’t have much to say on the topic, if you’re down for knocking on the backdoor, go ahead, pound it.
It makes a difference in my mind if anal is pulled into the spectrum of sexual acts since I’ve always put it in its own little category. I’ll put it this way: I feel like there is usually a pretty natural progression to hooking up. If you’re making out with a guy, it’s likely that next he’ll try to take off your bra. You might stop him, but at the same time, you wouldn’t be particularly surprised or offended that he attempted it. Going further, if some serious “hand action” is occurring, it’s not too big of a leap to think that sex might come next.
For me, that’s where it stops. I’ve never perceived anal as the obvious next step after vaginal sex. Obviously, I’m looking at this from a straight female’s perspective, but still, I’ve always thought of butt sex as something that had to be explicitly consented to rather than a normal part of moving from A to B.
That being said, I’ve heard about a really strange trend lately: the expectation of anal. Guys going for some backdoor loving without warning. Even women being told by the guy they were hooking up with that they just assumed it was going to happen.
From what I’ve heard about anal, it’s something that, physically, you have to prepare for. So that alone makes a surprise attack a bad idea, but injury aside, I feel like guys never used to just think that every girl wanted to go there. I thought that some did and some didn’t, but either way you have to make it known which way you swing before the act actually occurred.
So maybe I’m wrong about all of this. Maybe butt sex is the norm, and I’m not as opened minded as I thought I was. But here’s the thing, if anal used to be a stand out sexual act, but now it’s expected, then how the hell are you supposed to be a freak?
Am I just a grandma who’s totally behind and doesn’t realize that everyone is taking it back there? I used to think that if you were just creative and open to new things, being spontaneous in bed would come naturally – but if something I’m totally uncomfortable doing is now standard, then I don’t even know how to keep up.
So what do you think? Anal: completely predictable or still just for the adventurous? Discuss.