There’s a lot of hype about V cards.
American Pie, 10 Things I Hate About You, Can’t Hardly Wait, blah blah blah. All of these movies give us a pretty simple formula: If you’re a guy, you should be desperate to swipe that shit ASAP and make moves to hit it at every opportunity. If you’re a girl, you should wait and hold off and then finally do it with your dream boyfriend who you are totally in love with and everything is perfect.
Does that mean it’s not OK to do it differently?
If you deviate from the formula are you a sexual failure?
People will really surprise you on this one. There are girls that everyone “knows” are banging people when really they are saving themselves. There are also girls who you don’t think have ever hooked up with anyone, and then you find out they lost it just for the sake of losing it one night. True stories. And these are just the people who think having sex is an option at all before they are married.
So with all these different opinions what is right and what is wrong?
Here’s my opinion, as usual: who cares? When I cashed in my V card I thought I was ok with it. But then I reflected on it and thought, “maybe I’m not?”
That’s the thing…no matter how you choose to lose it, you’re never sure and you’ll never be 100 percent positive that it was your time. Maybe you’ll give it away randomly and think that you should have waited or maybe you’ll bone the love of your life and then later you’ll have your heart broken.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is that you’re comfortable. I feel like I’m beating dead horse here, but this is what I think sex is all about: just making the decisions that you feel right about. Sometimes you’re right, and sometimes, you’re wrong, but in the end you’re OK with the fact that you made a choice.
So go bone, go not bone, or go wait until you feel comfortable boning. No matter what, it is your right choice…so just get it.