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Behind Closed Doors: Let’s talk about sex, baby

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I think that Salt – N – Pepa put it best when they said, “Let’s talk about sex, baby / Let’s talk about you and me / Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be / Let’s talk about sex.”

Talking is an important aspect of sex. Having open lines of communication between you and your partner can only lead to good things.

But does the talking have to end when the foreplay begins? Absolutely not. Talking during sex can be a huge turn-on, but it can also be daunting. What exactly is okay to say?

Let’s first explore silence. To be completely silent throughout a sexual encounter takes effort: Your body involuntarily makes guttural sounds of pleasure. If there is some reason to be silent — such as, if you were hooking up in Tucker 207 at midnight on Saturday — then the silence enhances the experience. But if there isn’t an external constraint, silence can make your partner feel insecure.

Feedback is essential to a successful sexual experience. If you’re uncomfortable using your words, another option for filling the silence is moaning. Your partner needs to be reassured that what he or she is doing is working for you. This is not to say that you should fake it. Just let the way you feel come out. This may be expressed in heavy breathing, squeals, “yeses” and just random pleasure sounds. Do what feels natural. And remember that not every second of silence has to be filled.

When dealing with only moaning, there is one important caveat: It is sometimes hard to distinguish a moan of pleasure and a moan of pain. Sometimes when you’re hooking up, something uncomfortable happens — he plunges too deep and hits your cervix, she accidentally uses some teeth on your happy place. Since moans of both pleasure and pain can be interpreted in the same way, it is essential that a moan of pain be accompanied by some other sound. A love struck 20-something won’t know if he’s hurting you if he thinks you’re moaning with joy and you don’t correct him.

If you’ve moved beyond moaning and are ready for the big leagues, full-blown utterances can be great fun. The easiest types of sentences to start off with are reassurances and narrations. “Oh yes. That feels so good,” is a classic. It’s okay if it doesn’t come out in perfect grammar, you aren’t in English class. Narrations are a little more risque. “Oooh. You’re giving me head.”

Instructions are excellent sex utterances, but you have to be careful. “Harder, harder. Ride me cowboy,” isn’t disagreeable at all, but “No, not there, stupid, to the left,” definitely is. Just try to keep in mind your partner’s feelings when you’re giving instructions, and don’t say anything that you wouldn’t want said to you.

You may get very self-conscious about speaking in bed. This is when what you say starts to be funny. Funny is great, funny is charming, but funny also tends to be a turn-off. If you laugh while you tell your woman how much you love her breasts, she may take them away and not let you play with them. Make sure you’re ready to speak before you start.

As with any kind of sexy play, it’s important to set boundaries. You never want to go too far — maybe it’s okay to say “kiss me, bitch” but it’s not okay to say “kiss me, whore.” Each person has his or her own limits and you don’t want to ruin the sexy mood by accidentally using the wrong epithet.

Lastly, noises and talking are fun, but that doesn’t mean they have to be shared with everyone. I am very happy for you if you have the cojones to give a play-by-play narrative of what you’re doing to her Georgia O’Keefe, but I don’t need to hear about it while I’m trying to do my math homework. Keep the noise at a respectful level. You want to avoid violating a noise ordinance — or worse, your suite-mates might start recording your erotic exploits.

__Maya Horowitz is the Flat Hat sex columnist. She has never hooked up in Tucker. Why would you accuse her of that?__

Shock and awe: Japanese “Future Shock” exhibition comes to Andrews Gallery

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Over the past week as students walked through Andrews Hall on their way to class, they may have done a double take at the collection of objects slowly accumulating in the Andrews Gallery. Robots and mannequins now fill the space, complementing the bare, white walls of the gallery. With the flip of a few switches, the objects spring to life and begin their jerky and mechanized motions.

On one table, plastic pieces of fruit spring forth wildly on metal poles. In the back of the hall, two mannequin torsos sit atop tripod legs rocking back and forth to saw a stuffed pig. Speakers emit melancholy strains of violin music, punctured by the harsh sound effects of chomping and chewing.

The clamor doesn’t end, until someone turns off the switch or the battery dies.

The “Future Shock” exhibition officially opened yesterday. Its robots and mannequins move as part of the exhibition to relay a message of pandemic artificiality. “Future Shock,” one half of an international exchange of art and ideas, is the result of a collaboration between Kinichi Miyazawa and Jun Sugiyama. The students of Tokoyo’s Musashino Art University directed the creation of this installation piece, and coordinating the project with professor of art and sculpture Elizabeth Mead at the College of William and Mary.

“[Future Shock] talks about mercury specifically and the impact of the food we eat, the impact of our choices on the environment, and the impact of fast food on the Japanese diet,” Mead said. The project attempts to synthesize all these issues into one provocative idea.

Under the guidance of their professor Nobutaka Kotake, who cited the music videos of 80s band Devo and jazz musician Herbie Hancock as important visual influences, the students created a work of art emphasizing the constant and cyclical nature of the problems in the industrialization of food. Materials that would fray after repeated use were purposely chosen to mimic the effects of gradual erosion. The disjointed figures, which move continuously, speak to the potentially Orwellian future of factory-produced food.

“The mechanization [of the piece] is very circular and never-ending in its motion,” Mead said. “We need to work together to break these cycles and move away from this detrimental activity.”

The main components of the exhibit were disassembled and shipped from Tokyo, where they were created, to the College. Last Friday, five students arrived from Musashino Art University to set up the exhibit. Miyazawa, Sugiyama and three assistants worked tirelessly to assemble the piece within the confines of the Andrews Gallery.

Emily Mason ’11 and Chelsea Jenkins ’11, who both study Japanese, hosted Miki Tanaka, one of the students from Tokyo, in their room in Landrum Hall. Mason and Jenkins saw the project reconstructed firsthand and formed relationships despite language barriers.

“[Conversation] has been broken, but we get the point across.” Jenkins said. “Miki has been very patient and so nice.”

Both students enjoyed finally seeing the project in action. “It is so intricate, every time you look back at the exhibition, you see more that you didn’t catch the first time through,” she said.

To complete the cross-cultural experience, students of Mead’s class, “Sculpture in the Global Environment: Heavy Metal and the Delta Blues,” created work that is now currently on display at Musashino.

For inspiration, the students looked at two case studies: the devastation of Hurricane Katrina and the epidemic of mercury poisoning. The students attempted to examine and communicate the effects of the natural disasters on people’s everyday lives.

Margaret Mays ’09 created “Mercury River” after noticing men fishing in a river they knew was contaminated with mercury. Inspired by the crimson hues of powdered mercury, Mays sought to “bring an awareness to the environmental hazards of mercury poisoning” through the dramatic use of color in her orange-red Tyvek piece.

Ashley Pierce ’10 created an interactive piece, which consisted of a hollow mold of a brain and silver silly putty placed on top of a pedestal, where viewers could make a mold of the brain. Because silly putty begins to melt and morph instantly, Pierce said the piece acts as a literal representation of how mercury affects the human brain.

The constant juxtaposition of cultural differences between the United States and Japan pervades the entire show, down to the minutia. After watching the mechanizations malfunction, the Japanese students rushed to find a transformer to convert American electrical current to a level compatible with Japanese electronics.
Mead said exploring the perspective of the western influence on the east, and the eastern influence on the west was a key goal of the project.

This exchange of works to exhibit is just one step for the Mercury s Global Inquiry Group — an organization promoting research and awareness of the harmful effects of mercury poisoning — headed by professors in departments ranging from biology to film studies. Mead, a founding member, said that this three-year project is about “all of us thinking across boundaries and borders to confront some of the problems that we face in the world.”

__Editor’s Note: The Musashino Art University was incorrectly labelled as Musashiro University, and was corrected April 8.__

SA needs election clarity

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Well, Erik Houser ’10 did it. For the first time in recent memory, apathy — rather than inhuman overzealousness — has delivered a candidate into the often esteemed ranks of our Student Assembly. And with the recent allegations regarding keylogging e-mail passwords, the time could not be better for this organization to take a deep breath and inject into its proceedings the common sense that Houser’s disaffected constituency demands. A good place to start this process is with the SA Election Code, which should be reformed before more grand — or grandiose — plans take command of the SA’s focus.

To illustrate our point, here is a hypothetical that should make any believer in effective democracy shudder: Imagine an SA incumbent who decides not to run for re-election, but hopes to ensure continued access to the annals of SA power by handpicking his successor. While such a situation should be outlandish in a system with open elections, under the current SA election code, and under certain conditions, it would be remarkably easy to manage.

In the less-contested class officer positions, incumbents are very likely to win their seats again; so likely, in fact, that they frequently run unopposed. However, SA candidate lists are not announced until the beginning of the campaign period, after it is already too late to declare candidacy. This creates a situation in which an officer can ensure that a friend can run unopposed or with minimal opposition by simply keeping mum about his intention not to re-seek office. His assumed presence on the ticket scares off the majority of the opposition, while the student body is kept in the dark because of the election rules that keep candidacy declarations confidential until it is too late.

These same rules lead to the familiar situation in which there may be several write-in campaigns for an office for which no one has officially declared candidacy. Students who are willing and eager to take on the job are kept in the dark about its availability until it is impossible to take a spot on the ballot.
There are good reasons for the rules to be the way they are, but these rules do not respond to the needs of the campus. The concern is over snowballing campaign periods, which rack up costs and give unfair advantages to candidates who hit the campaign trail early.

We already have rules against early official campaigning, and these rules, if strictly enforced, should be enough on their own. Beyond that, we think that this campus, recently struck by a spell of apathy, would benefit from a little word-of-mouth buzz and excitement, even if it is before the official campaign period and unofficial in nature. The SA must change its policies such that candidacies are announced as they are declared.

And of course, with such a broken elections code, reform by no means should be limited to this one area alone. There is now no mechanism for a candidate to drop out of a race, as if this were some sort of unforeseeable eventuality. Under current rules, those who no longer wish to run simply break campaign finance rules in order to become disqualified. And, if this election cycle taught us anything, discrepancies between the SA Election Code and its Constitution need to be identified and addressed.

Drug policy lags behind proposed amnesty

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Ever since the College of William and Mary adopted a policy of medical amnesty for incidents involving alcohol two years ago, the question of drug amnesty has been a recurring issue in campus discourse. Today, Sen. Ben Brown ’11 will present a bill to the Student Assembly that would grant amnesty to those whose drug consumption has landed them in the hospital.

This reform, though welcome, is misguided when combined with the College’s extreme drug policy. It ends up endangering students more than it helps them. If the SA wants to make the student body safer, they must reform the College’s marijuana policy before attempting to steer the policy toward more dangerous drugs. Allowing students to be protected by drug amnesty if they are hospitalized while keeping in place policies that kick freshman out of housing for marijuana possession sends the wrong message to students.

When the College enacted alcohol amnesty the administration declared that they value individual safety over the enforcement of law — to a certain degree. The College says that if you are under 21 and you are drunk, they care more about your health than punishing underage intoxication; however, if you are found to be in possession of alcohol, the College still allows itself to discipline you for underage possession of alcohol. In short, alcohol amnesty only extends to consumption.

It is at this point that drug and alcohol amnesty policies must diverge because, unlike alcohol, you cannot be charged for the consumption of drugs — merely possession. For example, if I were to walk by a police officer and the officer smelled alcohol on me, the law gives him or her the power to charge me with underage possession of alcohol, even if I did not literally have alcohol on my person. However, if I were to walk by the same officer and the officer smelled marijuana on me, while this would give him probable cause to search me, if I were not in possession of marijuana I would be free to go — no matter how stoned the officer thought I was.

When asked about this discrepancy, Brown told me that Dean of Students Dave Gilbert was open to granting amnesty for a minor drug possession charge if someone was hospitalized and found to have drugs on them. However, he wanted to reserve the right to punish students whom he believed to be dealing drugs. While the simple acknowledgment of the law’s discrepancy shows that the administration has put some thought into drug amnesty, the decision remains in the hands of Gilbert.

Unfortunately, this is indicative of the College’s larger drug policy. The student handbook offers no distinctions between drug offenses, stating that a series of sanctions can be levied by themselves or in combination with others. These sanctions vary, and come in the form of warnings, loss of privileges, task participation, disciplinary probation, suspension or dismissal.

I distinctly remember being told by a Resident Assistant that the penalty for possessing marijuana in a freshman dorm — which is substance-free housing by default — is the denial of the privilege to live on-campus for the remainder of the year. This is particularly crippling for freshmen because they are required to live in on-campus housing. I witnessed, firsthand, the dismissal of a hallmate through this rather roundabout policy.

No matter how drug amnesty is put into place, the existence of policies like this overcome any possible good that it could create on campus. Without complete policy reform, drug amnesty will only encourage the abuse of cocaine and prescription opiates — abuse that is easily hidden behind closed doors. Marijuana use, though completely non-lethal and extremely unlikely to result in hospitalization, is much more easily detected by someone outside your door.

The punishment should fit the crime. A student who overdoses on cocaine should not be able to walk out of the hospital knowing that he or she is protected by drug amnesty while a student smoking marijuana in his dormitory is being kicked off campus.

E-mail Russ Zerbo at rjzerbo@wm.edu.

VPSA candidates’ impact on community should be first priority

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News reached the College of William and Mary community last week of the four finalists for vice president for Student Affairs — arguably the most important administrative position at the College. Whoever gets the job will have some big shoes to fill, as many of us older folks look back on Sam Sadler’s ’64 days at the College with fondness and miss his steadying presence on campus.

In last Friday’s Flat Hat, the newspaper’s editorial board wrote that Virginia Ambler ’88 Ph.D ’06 , a two-time alumna who currently holds the position on an interim basis, should be given a permanent appointment. I would personally love nothing more than for Ambler to be hired as permanent VPSA if she is the best candidate. At the moment, however, I don’t know if that’s the case, and neither does anybody else except for members of the Search Committee, who are understandably refraining from taking sides until the student body has a chance to meet each candidate and provide their input.

For those of you who don’t know a great deal about the position, the VPSA oversees just about everything that matters to the student body, including the Dean of Students Office, Residence Life, the Student Health Center, the Student Conduct and Honor Councils, Student Activities and of course, most important of all, the Student Assembly. While our immediate interactions with the vice president can range from simply reading e-mails to regular meetings, most aspects of campus life are run from that office in the Campus Center.

The importance of the position has been reflected in the scope of the search-and-review process that has taken place over the past year to find a permanent replacement for Sadler. According to Clay Clemens, professor of government and chair of the Search Committee, 80 applications were initially received, and the four finalists all boast strong credentials and experience from various universities.

Undoubtedly, Ambler — with her education and experience — would have been a strong candidate even if her years in student affairs had been at a different institution. However, The Flat Hat’s editorial seems to indicate that the main reason for hiring her would be her familiarity with the College and her involvement with issues of student affairs on campus. But can somebody please tell me why that’s necessarily a good thing?

Sure, it helps to know your way around campus and be familiar with different student leaders and organizations. But these connections can be fostered over time, and the new VPSA will be able to get a feel for campus this summer and next year. If familiarity with the College was a prerequisite for the job, there would be no reason to spend time, money and resources on a nationwide search.

What we should be judging these candidates on is not how well they know the College, but what impact they will have on the campus community. In taking a look around, can anybody truly say that they are happy with the state of student affairs? I doubt it. We still have students getting bumped, even though the College has additional housing space at the Dillard Complex that it could use as a back-up, if for no other reason than to ensure that students have a place to live if they wanted it. The Greek system is a complete mess. Student life is virtually nonexistent unless you’re 21 or you decide to suck it up and just deal with the College Delly.

As a result of the absence of on-campus student life, town-gown relations continue to be marked by distrust and anger.

The College doesn’t suffer from a “deficit of institutional memory,” as The Flat Hat’s editorial asserts. There are plenty of people who respect the history and institutions of the College who can carry the torch of tradition. Rather, the College suffers from a surplus of bureaucratic stagnation. There are heaps of problems, lots of committees and task forces, and nothing that actually gets done. Sweeping these issues under the rug just won’t cut it anymore.

We need someone for this important post who can fix that. We need someone who can unite the student body and instill in it a sense of identity and purpose. Where that person has worked in the past, or happens to work now, is largely irrelevant.

E-mail Alexander Ely at anelyx@wm.edu.

Walter Benn Michaels: In Order to Form a More Perfect Utopia

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For Walter Benn Michaels, the only type of diversity that really matters is socio-economic. Its enemy is none other than capitalism, which he believes to create inequality. Michaels argued that SAT scores serve as vehicles for universities to discriminate against the lower class, and financial aid is a farce that only benefits the wealthy. At the conclusion of the question and answer period, Michaels strongly disputed the fact that the average income has in fact risen and that social programs have increased since the 1950s. Despite the accuracy of his statistics, they fail to demonstrate causation with his arguments.

Surely, a correlation exists between a student’s economic class and SAT scores. Though educational institutions rely heavily on SAT scores, they don’t use them to discriminate against low-income students or families as Michaels suggests. Correlation does not mean causality. Second, Michaels points to Harvard’s financial aid system, which he argues only benefits the rich, “who don’t need it.” He neglected to mention that those with incomes of $60,000 or less make no contribution. Moreover, Harvard reaches out to those in lower income brackets. According to Harvard’s Financial Aid director, “Our students who recruit for the Harvard Financial Aid Initiative (HFAI) worked side by side with Undergraduate Minority Recruitment Program (UMRP) reaching out to students with family incomes under $60,000 and $80,000. We are greatly encouraged by the results of their efforts.” Michael’s supposed conspiracy to keep universities staffed with “rich kids” is laughable.

What should we think of Michaels’s claim that capitalism creates inequality? Where is the causal link between capitalism and inequality? Inequality has existed since the dawn of man, even in communist nations, so one is hard pressed to find it. Moreover, why did Michaels claim the real average income in America has declined since 1950 and that Americans were better off in 1950? According to historical statistics his claim is false; the poverty line has actually risen. More importantly, the unegalitarian shift of the late 1970s-1995 is due to a shift in the earning powers of different and emerging occupations, such as technology (Microsoft’s Bill Gates and Oracle’s Larry Ellison, two of the world’s richest men), and a change in the distribution of working hours and income earners. For example, “between 1977 and 1995 there was a shift toward dual-career households, with men and women of high earning power tending more and more to be married to each other, adding to the inequality of total household incomes.”

Furthermore, Michaels’s statements contradict each other. He claims that the income of the lowest earners has declined since the 1950s and disagreed with my statement that social programs have increased since the 1950s. If socialism is the answer, as he so boldly stated, then why does he claim Americans are worse off despite the exponential growth of social programs? It is common knowledge to any high school student enrolled in U.S. history that President Lyndon B. Johnson’s social programs of the 1960s created Medicare and Medicaid, causing the number of entitlement programs to proliferate, while spending for such programs surged exponentially in the 60s and 70s. In fact, public funding for social welfare programs accounts for more than 20 percent of gross domestic product.

American identity is largely formed by its economic system, which provides opportunity and incentives for risk taking and entrepreneurship; encouraging innovation that creates wealth and employment. Michaels’s proposal for massive wealth redistribution would destroy the very system that has made America an economic powerhouse. Indeed, there are numerous inefficiencies in the system that should be fixed, such as health care, but they are inorganic to the system itself. We do not live in a zero-sum game world and inequality is not a measure of injustice. The proper approach is not attempting to repeal the laws of economics, a venture which historically fails and results in wide spread collateral damage, but rather to create mechanisms that create jobs and economic growth.

E-mail Lance Zaal at lezaal@wm.edu

That Guy: Luke Gill

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__Luke Gill, casually dressed in a black pullover, is fresh off the basketball court after “whippin’ the tails” of the 13 to 15 year-olds he coaches in town. A man with an affable nature and varied interests, he’s served as an enthusiastic orientation aide director, is an avid volleyball player and has graced the music stage as drummer for the campus band Ultraviolet Ballet. As the conversation progresses, Luke dishes on fighting fires in the Rec Center, what it’s like to be mistaken for a basketball player and why he thinks United Parcel Service men have such great jobs.__

**What do you consider one of your defining characteristics?**
I’m a silly person. I like to joke around with people. There also aren’t too many awkward moments with me because I’m kind of an awkward person. I’m six feet four inches and like five feet of that is legs, all legs. So, I’m kind of a ridiculous person.

**You certainly are tall. How is being six feet four inches?**
I was the drummer for a band, Ultraviolet Ballet, and the four of us — ranging from six foot two to six foot seven — were in the Cheese Shop, just having a band meeting or something stupid like that. This old woman turns to her husband and is like, “That’s the William and Mary basketball team.” All three of my friends in the band have long hair. I dress pretty lamely and normal, but the others have the tight pants and leather jackets, trying to look like rock stars. We did not look like basketball players at all.

**How long did you play for Ultraviolet Ballet?**
I played from freshman to junior year because the others graduated. I’m actually getting into piano now, too. I’m playing Beethoven’s “Moonlight Sonata” at the moment.

**What’s your favorite piano piece?**
I would say “Prelude #2, [Blue] Lullaby” by Gershwin. That is a sick piece.

**What’s something difficult you’ve had to deal with here at the College?**
Parking. When people answer that question they always say, “Ah, there’s not enough time to do everything — that’s the most difficult thing.” But I would say Parking Services. Freshman year, when I was moving in, I got a $110 ticket just for leaving my car in the wrong place. Sophomore year, I had a meltdown because they had put a parking hold on my account right before registration when I actually had a parking pass. Then, of course, there had to be a server malfunction since we were living in the Units.

**What’s something you always wished you could be?**
Ever since I was a kid I’ve wanted to do one thing: I would love to be a UPS driver for a day. Everybody wants to be a cop or a fireman, but I’d want to do UPS. I’d get to wear the shorts and drive with the door open. I could settle for FedEx, but UPS would be ideal. On that note, I also love lights and sirens and driving fast. I was an EMT and [a] firefighter. That’s all I did freshman year. I’d drive out to Toano and ride with the fire department.

**Ever deal with any fires?**
Yeah. There aren’t that many, but there was one in the Rec Center which was awesome because it was in the pool room with all the chlorine. You don’t put on your masks until the last minute and usually end up breathing in a little smoke just like you’re at a grill or something. But this time we took one breath and people felt like dying. That’s when we realized we were in the pool maintenance room where all the chlorine was stored so we were breathing chlorine gas. Not very good.

**Any other memorable experiences from working with the fire department?**
That story about the Rec is a funny story actually because afterwards at like nine or ten on that Saturday night, we had to wait for this Hazmat truck to come get us cleaned off. We literally walked through this giant trailer getting sprayed with all this shit. You had to strip down to your boxers and they put your clothes in these biohazard bags. Since I lived in the units, I was like “I’m exhausted and calling it a night.” So I walk home to the units and we’re living next to Lambda Chi Alpha, where they were having a euro trash party. So, I’m rolling in at midnight going up stairs in my boxers and people are like “Yeah man. Great costume.” I was really not in the mood. I stood in the shower for like two hours before I got into bed.

**You mentioned earlier that you love tradition. Do you like that aspect of the College?**
Yeah, that’s huge. I’m a huge dork when it comes to that. I completely buy into all the Thomas Jefferson stuff and everything. I think Convocation is a really cool tradition. I don’t think I realized freshman year how great it is. It’s fun to see the classic freshmen coming through: Most guys are wearing a coat and tie, and there’s that one kid who comes through in a three-piece suit and aviators and pauses at the top like, “what’s up?” And then there’s that one kid with long hair [who] just rolls through looking really confused in a Darth Vader shirt and I’m like “You’re awesome.”

**Who is a figure you look to for inspiration?**
My dad, definitely my dad. He’s a beast. I mean he is a ridiculous guy. He’s the guy you go to Dairy Queen with who’s trying to get a Blizzard and he’ll just be like “how’s that McFlurry?” And you’re like dad, that’s McDonald’s. He’s just ditzy when it comes to that kind of stuff but when it comes to real stuff he’s a beast. He’s a handyman too; he builds like everything around our house and I’ve learned a lot from him. Also, my high school geometry teacher, to this day, has a crush on my dad. He is a good looking man, I’ll be the first to admit it.

**What’s something he’s taught you?**
How to operate a compound motor saw. I know how to do pretty much everything.

**If your life were a movie, what would it be, or what would it be about?**
I think it would be a comedy with errors. I spend an inordinate amount of time with James McCulla ’10. We just sit around and talk about food, sex and sports — and it never gets old. We’re straight out of “Everybody Loves Raymond” and “Seinfeld.” I feel like I’m surrounded by George Costanzas and Ray Romanos. It would be a combination of some really good and really bad sitcoms, because I do like to be serious sometimes.

__This genial government major is heading south next year to work toward a Masters degree in Higher Education Administration and Institutional Advancement at Vanderbilt University, and serve as the graduate assistant for Greek life at the university. When asked where he would like to be an administrator in the future, he answers that he’d love to be anywhere on the east coast that’s old, academically well thought of, and full of great traditions like at the College.__

Getting to know Curtis Adkins

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If you have ever set foot in the Commons, you have seen — or at least heard — Curtis Adkins. Better known to students as “the guy who sings,” his presence in the dining hall certainly does not go unnoticed. But, upon speaking with Curtis, it takes only seconds to realize that his public persona, his cheery and positive attitude, is the genuine article. Within a minute, he can make you feel completely relaxed. It was weird, but I felt strangely comfortable with this virtual stranger — that’s Curtis.

Curtis believes that students should feel at home and comfortable on campus and with its employees; this is one of the reasons he’s always singing. He believes music can help put people at ease and remind them that everything is all right. Even though he is constantly singing, he won’t specify which genres are his favorites.

“I like all music,” he said. “I like singing all kinds of music. But, I have to remind myself to sing more rap, since, you know, that’s what young people listen to these days.”

Curtis’s extensive background in singing includes his high school chorus and his church choir. Whenever he is walking anywhere, he sings along the way — even in the early hours of the morning. On one occasion, when he was walking past a dorm at about 7 a.m., a passing student joked that his singing was like an alarm clock. This is just an example of his connections to students. “People know who I am. Older kids tell the new ones, ‘oh, you’ll see Curtis,’” he said.

Surprisingly, Curtis sings just as much for others as he does for himself. He put it best, saying, “Every day I ask myself, what can I do to help someone out today? Even if it’s just something little, like saying a few kind words to help pick someone up. That’s just what I do.” This outlook, uniquely hopeful and humane, is something completely refreshing.

“That’s what it’s all about — positive thinking,” he said. “Of course I’ve got problems, but who doesn’t? The key is not letting your problems take control of you. I take something negative and turn it into a positive.”

This eternal optimism isn’t masking a lack of brains either — he consistently shares his thought-provoking views on things ranging from everyday life to faith to how he measures success and happiness. When asked about his job, he grinned before answering.

“Oh, I love this job,” he said. “I mean, I could always leave and go somewhere else and try to make more money, but it’s not about money. If I work a job I don’t like just to make a few extra bucks, I’m going to end up spending that extra money just to feel as good as I would if I had stayed with the job that made me happy.”

When people suggest he is fortunate to be doing something he enjoys, he merely shakes his head. “It’s not that I’m doing what I want,” he said. “I find joy in what I’m doing.” Curtis has enjoyed every one of his 21 years working at the Caf.

When Curtis is not at the Caf, he spends his time relaxing. He goes to the movies, shops at the mall and occasionally visits a club or two. However, work is not strenuous for him.

“I work five days a week, and I love it. I love the people I work with,” he said. “I don’t have to go out a bunch when going to work is fun.”

He applies his positive outlook to all aspects of life. “I turn on the TV and see the news. I see these horrible things — children starving and dying — I think, ‘What do I have to feel bad about? My life is great.’ I make myself stay thankful. I never give in to negative thinking.”

Curtis conveys his optimism in everyday conversations, especially when referring to his work at the Caf.
“We’re a team, you know? Larry Smith, the managers, supervisors, the rest of us — we’re a team,” he said. “But I’m the MVP,” he added playfully.

Many students feel that Curtis would be the Caf’s MVP. Andy Principe’10, a student employed at the Caf, has nothing but great things to say about Curtis. “He’s always really kind,” Principe said. “Whenever he sees me he gives me a high-five. He’ll ask how things are going, how my girlfriend is doing. You can tell he really cares.”

Curtis has been featured in various publications, all of which profile his amicable nature. He has a stack of school newspapers and magazines to show for all his work on campus. The thick pile Curtis showed, which contained copies of The Flat Hat, a couple editions of The Pillory and some various other school magazines with articles featuring or quoting him. Curtis elaborated on these articles by discussing events in which he has participated and witnessed. To him, this campus is just as much his as it is the students’.

One magazine featured a photograph of Curtis dressed immaculately, with a mic in one hand and on a stage. It had been taken at a benefit concert held for a coworker and friend, Ernestine, who had been sick with cancer.

“Oh, she passed on.” Curtis explained. I replied that I was sorry to hear it, but he just smiled. “Don’t be,” he said. “We all have to go sometime. I just thank the Lord for what he’s given me; I’m very blessed. I may not have had the opportunities some other people have had, but that’s not how I look at things. Life is the greatest blessing, and I’m grateful for each and every day.”

By just getting to know Curtis, anyone can learn something. He is willing to befriend anyone who takes a moment to talk to him and is more than willing to share a smile and a greeting.

Privatization should be explored

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For those who believe in the ideal of public education, these are unsettling times. Over the last two decades, diminishing state funding and soaring education costs have put tremendous pressure on the College of William and Mary’s balance sheet — and its aspirations. And even as private donations and tuition increasingly cover our operating costs, the College is still constrained by the state’s enrollment quotas and in-state tuition ceilings. This week, a Libertarian speaker suggested that privatizing the College — thereby freeing it from some of Richmond’s control — may help alleviate some of this pressure. While we do not necessarily agree with this point of view, there could be no better time, given our economic woes, than the present to explore the option. The administration should create a committee to investigate the long-term costs and benefits of increasing privatization at the College.

It is important to note that privatization comes in many forms and is in no way binary. The broad term encompasses any possible way a public university may take on the aspects of the private sector. This could range from the total severing of our ties with Richmond — an outcome that at this point is almost unimaginable even if one believes it is desirable — to outsourcing our housekeeping to a private company in order to cut costs, as we already have done with our food services.

The College, as one of the state’s top schools, has already been given the greatest level of autonomy possible under state law. But as higher education continues to play the whipping boy in this recession, we wonder if the General Assembly can always be trusted to uphold its end of the bargain. Perhaps we could do better on our own.

Becoming increasingly privatized has the potential to endanger some of this school’s greatest assets, such as its affordability and openness. But doing so also could open the door for excellence unattainable under current financial restraints. This issue demands the utmost cautious consideration, but at the very least, it is worth investigating.

Consent is key for healthy sexual relationships at College

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Sexual assault can be difficult to talk about, but silence surrounding this issue can be devastating. Rape continues to be one of the least reported crimes in the country; according to the 2008 National College Health survey, roughly 250 students at the College of William and Mary had been the victims of sexual assault within the 12 months prior to the survey being taken. However, the William and Mary Police Department reports show that in 2007 only five people reported sexual assault officially to the campus police. Nine out of 10, according to the College’s sexual assault education website, knew his or her attacker before the assault. This is really disturbing to think about, because this means that the attacker could be a person’s friend, boyfriend, classmate or hallmate — someone we know as part of our Tribe — who has committed sexual assault.

I’m absolutely not trying to say that all acquaintances are rapists — far from it. It’s always important to remember that the majority of people are not rapists. But if we ignore the fact that rapists are usually people that the victim knows, we distort the realities of sexual assault on our campus and thus affect the methods we use to try to prevent it. When thinking about sexual assault prevention strategies, we need to look at ways to stop people from committing assault in the first place, and one way to do this is to start talking about consent.

Hopefully, you’ve seen the T-shirts and fliers around campus proclaiming, “Consent is Sexy!” But what does consent really mean? We’re often as silent about consent as we are about sexual assault itself. In fact, silence is often interpreted as consent — if your partner didn’t say no, he or she meant yes, right? By talking about what getting consent really means, we can dispel the myth that silence means consent — or worse, that “no” means persuade me. Consent is nothing less than an enthusiastic “yes” and getting that yes means striking up a conversation.

This dialogue starts on a personal level. People tend to think that asking a partner’s permission before initiating anything sexual somehow ruins the mood. But since when is talking about sex unsexy? Simply having this conversation can really go a long way in establishing and ensuring consent. Tell your partner what you like and how you like it — whether you’re talking about having sex, making out or anything in between. Listen when they tell you what they want. You could even share some fantasies. Most importantly, listen and respect what the other has to say. Whether your partner is someone you’ve been dating forever or some hottie you’ve just met, the conversation about consent has to happen every time.

If we embrace that consent needs to happen every time and that consent needs to be unequivocally enthusiastic, instead of tacit, this can go a long way in changing our attitudes about sexual assault. We need to develop a culture at the College in which issues like sexuality, consent and sexual violence are openly and honestly discussed. This would mean creating an environment on our campus in which any sexual activity without the consent of both involved is completely unacceptable. By always listening to and supporting the individuals who have survived sexual assault in our community, we would establish an environment where those who have experienced assault are not afraid or ashamed of sharing what happened to them.

Sexual Assault Peer Advocates created Sexual Assault Awareness Week to open up dialogue about consent and sexual assault within all members of the Tribe. We’re taking the first step in creating a campus that is free of sexual violence by breaking the silence on sexual assault and consent as a community. Ending sexual violence starts with understanding consent. Consent is communication. Consent is respect. Consent is sexy.

E-mail Megan Keeling at mrkeeling@wm.edu. Keeling is the SAPA publicity chair.